Monday, March 3, 2008

Messages from a Player Part 1

During my quest for online dating, I have started to collect other stories from friends who are currently dealing with singledom. Below is Part 1 between my friend and the guy that she was supposedly dating. The start of the conversation is in regards to Yahoo! Personal ads. Ironically, not how they met...

Boy: hi

Girl: can you answer my question

Boy: Yahoo Police

Boy: again

Boy: what was the q

Girl: you said "i dont know"

Girl: what dont you know

Boy: i dont remember

Girl: well then, can you let me know if im wasting my time?

Boy: god stop

Boy: i dont want to deal with this

Boy: dont waste your time

Boy: if you dont want to

Boy: i dont know what i want

Girl: i dont know what to do because i like you so much

Girl: it sucks to hear you say you dont know what you want

Girl: i want to be with you and i dont think you feel the same

Girl: ?

Boy: ang on

Boy: hang on

Boy: im back

Girl: ok

Boy: just chill Girl

Boy: Im not getting married or anything

Boy: I havent really dated enough to know what exactly i want

Boy: not that I dont like you

Boy: or anything like that

Boy: because i do

Girl: so im suppose to sit back and watch you date other girls?

Boy: you have a yahoo personals too

Boy: ha ha ha

Boy: like you dont date

Boy: funny

Girl: im not asking to be serious or anything but......i dont know. i like you. it sucks to think about you dating other people when i like you so much

Girl: i dont date. i havent dated anybody else in a long time

Boy: you told me that you have

Girl: i thought this was going somewhere, i really did. and now i have to just sit back while you date around?

Boy: I like you to Girl

Girl: i told you that i had s ex with 1 other person. it was somebody i dated a long long time ago and it just kind of happened. he moved to arizona. i havent dated anybody but you

Boy: oh

Boy: well

Boy: what am i supposed to do

Boy: dont watch me date

Boy: dont go out of your way to watch my yahoo personals account

Boy: p

Girl: i just dont understand. i dont know what to do. do you not want to date me? do you not want to be with me?

Boy: what are you talking about

Girl: i want to be with you. i want to date you and only you. im not looking to get married but i dont want you to date other people. im not trying to tell you what to do. i guess i just want you to want to date only me

Boy: Oh

Girl: and i thought that's where this was at least headed. i thought you really liked me

Boy: I do

Girl: then why do you want to date other people

Boy: what

Boy: Girl can we talk about this another time

Girl: no because you're not ever gonna want to talk about it again

Girl: look. i laid everything out there on my end, and that takes a lot for me. im pretty much on the verge of tears because it just hurts to like somebody so much and then not get that same feeling back from them. i want to date you and only you. i want you to want the same, but if that's not what you want then i cant just sit around while im put on the back burner while you date other people

Girl: i cant wait aorund for that because i like you too much. and i know what you're gonna say. you're gonna tell me not to wait around and that almost hurts even more because you say you like me but you're just willing to let me go. to never hang out with me again. that doesnt seem like something somebody who likes somebody would do

Boy: OK

Girl: if you say you like me, then show it. but know that when you finally decide to come around or whatever, it doesn't mean im gonna be there waiting for you

Girl: as far as im concerned this is your only chance, and if you're willing to give me up that easy, then fine.

Boy: ok

Girl: you're just willing to give me up?

Girl: ?

Boy: Hey

Girl: what

Girl: are you willing to give me up?

Boy: I really didnt want it to come to this

Boy: No I dont want to give you up

Boy: BUT

Boy: \your putting me in a sh * tty situation

Boy: kind of forcing me into sh *t

Girl: im not forcing you into anything

Girl: what happened to all of that talk about you saying if i would have come over to your place in seal beach more you might have stayed and that we might have been something more serious?

Boy: I meant that too

Girl: i've been pretty much dating you for 7 months now. you're putting ME in a sh *tty situation by dating me for 7 months, telling me you thought things were gonna go further, and then telling me you dont know what you want and that you want to date other people

Girl: how do you think that makes me feel? what am i suppose to do? wait around another 7 months?

Boy: k

Boy: stop trippen

Girl: then stop making me feel like im being dragged around for nothing. you tell me you like me and all this stuff, but now to hear that you dont know what you want? of course im gonna "trip" because that seriously hurts to hear that from somebody you really like

Boy: I dont want to hurt you Girl

Boy: I like you

Boy: but if it takes not talking or dating anymore

Boy: thats your choice not mine

Girl: no, it's your choice because then you're the one who's willing to give me up

Girl: do you even want to date me? do you want things to go further?

Boy: k Girl no more of this sh *t

Boy: whatever you want

Girl: if you want to date other people, that's totally fine. but that doesn't mean im gonna be here waiting for you if and when you decide to come back. and if you really like me as much as you say you do, then you wont string me along for another 7 months or make me wait around for you to come back. if you like somebody you should want to be with them

Girl: but i cant force you to want to be with me

Girl: so whatever

Boy: stop

Girl: its not my choice, it's yours. you decide if you want to lose me or not. night

Boy: already

Boy: stop

Boy: If you dont want to see me again thats on you....

Girl: i DO want to see you Boy

Girl: i want to see you every free day i have

Boy: I want to see you too so stop

Boy: damn

Boy: drama

Girl: this is not drama Boy. im freaking telling you how i feel. i havent told somebody i actually like them in a LONG time. you have no idea how hard it is for me to say that

Boy: this isnt drama?

Girl: i like you more than you will ever know. it just hurts to date someone for 7 months and then have it be at a standstill, to feel like the other person doesnt feel like i do

Boy: lok Girl will you please stop for tonight

Girl: so whatever. i've said how i feel. i cant say anything else. like i've said, if you want to date around, then that's cool. but like i've also said it doesnt mean i'll wait around. night

Boy: Id rather talk in person

Girl: well yeah

Boy: Lets do lunch later this week

Girl: i have work so if you want to do lunch you'll have to come out here

Boy: ok deal

Boy: Good night Girl have sweet dreams

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