Date #4

Well, we all know that I take a while to catch up on this game. Just to give you a count, after this date there are 4 more dates for me to write about. Hopefully I'll be caught up soon!

Date #4 was a date that was continually put off, not because I didn't want to meet up but because work was getting way intense. Finally we agreed on a Saturday night coffee date. I didn't really want to meet up and only planned on it being an hour. In fact, I had told my sister I would drive her out to a club. So I show up at Starbucks (and what's that about? Can't we find a more local coffee house to make friends with?) and Date #4 is there. (I can't seem to come up with a nickname and if ANYONE has a suggestion, I'm all ears!) He's cute and whatever, but totally did the protective thing when I went to get my drink because the baristas were cute and I was being a flirt, so he came up behind me to start talking to me. It wasn't awkward, but just kind of like "Can't I just get my coffee?" But whatever. Oh and I should point out that the date started with a hug. Nicole would be proud.

So we sit down and start chatting, and the conversation is going well. In fact, I can't seem to keep my mouth shut. It was one of those dates where everything I think comes out of my mouth. It was bad because then I start to sound like a critical, judgmental bitch (and I guess that's not that far from the truth...), but oh well. It's also usually the first sign that I'm interested in the boy.

So I have no idea what the conversation was about aside from it being normal. We chatted about my previous Match/ Online dates, and the awkwardness of them, etc. It was kind of amusing because he also spent a lot of time talking about how annoying and dramatic his friends were. Yes, this was the guy that in his first email alluded to his friends being drama. So halfway through the date, my phone rings and it's my sister. Obviously she needs to get to the club. And by no means was she my "out" or anything because really, who needs an out at this point in life? I answered the phone and told her to have her friends drive her there and leave their car there and I would pick them up later. That made it sound even like an out. Date #4 and I keep chatting and my phone rings again. It's my sister telling me that the "fourth" guy wasn't going to go and that she needed a ride, again. I tell her fine but to call me twenty minutes before she's ready to go so that I can drive out to get them, and I continue my date.

At 9:30 my sister calls back and is like, "Does your friend know how to get there?" Me, "I don't think he's going to go." So while I'm on the phone I ask him if he wants to go from Concord, to Martinez, to Pleasanton back to Concord and he just laughs awkwardly. Me, "Lis, he's making an awkward laugh, so I'm going with no." Once I'm off the phone he's like, "Well it'd be pointless for me to go with you bc you'll be going right by Danville (where he lives), unless you wanted to go out for drinks in San Ramon with my friends. but you seem like you really want to go home and take a bath." (Apparently I kept talking about wanting to take a bath...) Me, "Well, I'd be down to hang out, but I'm not up for a social thing where I don't know anyone." Him, "Well I only know one of the guys." Me, "Well why don't i call you after I drop them off?" and he agrees. We say good bye (and I hugged him... Oh and he was the only guy I hugged at this point.) And I joked about how I don't normally hug people, etc.

When I got to my sister's, I texted him, "Hey. Would it be weird if I suggested going to your house and just watching a movie or something? Unless you go out with your friends." His response, "Yeah, it's weird, but I think I can handle it. My friends flaked." A minute later I messaged him with, "BTW, this isn't a pretense to just hook up." His response, "Sweetheart, you aren't getting any tonight." Which cracks me up. And then he texted me directions, etc. And off I went to take my sister to the club and then to Date #4's house.

When I get there, we start "The 40 Year Old Virgin" because I hadn't seen it. We spent the whole movie chatting and stuff and watched very little of the movie. And no, we weren't making out. We were chatting the WHOLE time. So during the movie is when I realized that I totally had a crush on him because I literally had no filter on my mouth. I thought it, it came out of my mouth. Good times. We even looked at Myspace pages and whatnot. Yeah. What a date. Ha ha. And yes, I did remark about all of this. Yay for dating...

So halfway through the movie he's like "Do you want some wine?" And of course I do because I heart wine. And he gets it, etc. And then like 20 minutes later he's like "Do you want some candy?" And busts out with packages of m&ms, skittles, etc. And I'm like "Do you just keep a stash of candy next to your couch?" And he's like "No, I went to the store." And I'm just astounded by this act of kindness and gentlemenness. And so, in true Cyn style, I continue to comment about it and he's like "Do you want to see the receipt?" And I say "Yes." And thus he produces a receipt from Longs which includes not only the candy but also the wine that we had already drank. Which I proceed to comment on and make fun of.

Around 1:20 am or so, my sister called. We had just started the second movie, Talladega Nights, which I also haven't seen. I was exhausted. I had already commented on my ability to sleep just about anywhere. So he's like "Do you want me to go get them for you?" Me, "No, it's cool. It might be hard to explain. And then move them from cars, etc." Him, "Yeah, it may be hard to explain to your sister why you're asleep in a guy's bed." Me, "No, I think the harder part to explain would be why they aren't going back to Martinez tonight." So I say good bye to him and head off to pick up my sister and her drunken friends.

On the way home, after dropping them off, I call him to let him know just how thankful he should be that he didn't have to pick them up. And we joked a bit more and then said good night. Oh and I should point out here that his roommate kept texting and calling him during out date. There were some explicit words exchanged between he and I that would tarnish my reputation as a lady. (Ha! As if!) And thus that conversation will not be repeated here.

We texted the next day (which I started) and he was like, "We should meet up during the week." During that we continued to g-chat and even discussed my "lack" of plans for the future. He's at the point in his life where he's ready to buy his first house, etc., and I'm at the part of my life where I just keep thinking that there is something more out there. Very different books. He's an ant-eater and I'm a zorilla (look it up).

So from the sounds of it, the date sounded good, right? Like there would be a second date, that we hit it off, that we had a lot in common, right? WRONG! So a few days later I'm like "Do you want to hang out still?" And he texts me with, "I want to but I don't want to lead you on. Like I see us being friends, not in a relationship." And that spurs this whole conversation of him jumping from us going on one date to being in a relationship. Yeah. Good times. And I point that out but that I understand. So what happened? Well, the only thing I can figure is that because we're in such different books in our lives, that he doesn't want to get to know me better. Or maybe he was in a different universe for the date then I was. Or maybe the date wasn't as good as I thought. (Which is hard to believe for me...) I'm open to interpretation, so bring it my way! This was well over a month ago, and we have only chatted once or twice on g-chat. And haven't hung out since.

"To boys who confuse us!"