Sunday, March 30, 2008
Date #8 The Boringest Guy EVER
Mr. Boring and me had been chatting on and off for several weeks before we were finally able to pinpoint a date. This date took place the following Sunday after the second date with The Dino Grad Guy. I had spent the day with my family and had absolutely no want to go out for coffee with yet another guy I have nothing in common with and whom I find rather boring. Also, I had been in the midst of packing for yet another move. Maybe I should start just canceling when I don't really want to go out.
So we decide to go to Peets Coffee in WC at 8. I leave my parents house and drive there. Lo and behold, Peet's is closed. Just my luck. When I call Mr. Boring, he's like "I was wondering if that was going to be the case." Here's a clue. If you think it's going to be the case, maybe you should suggest another location. We decide on Starbucks in Barnes and Noble. I don't like Barnes and Noble. I worked at Borders. But that's okay. Off I go to B&N. When I get there, I don't notice anyone who looks like his picture, nor any awkward people who look like they are waiting for a date. So I order my hot cocoa. (Again, why do we insist on going out for coffee. Who wants to drink coffee after 3 pm in the day?) I sit down and look like the awkward girl. I'm fairly certain that if people actually cared enough to notice me, they probably knew that I was waiting for a date. Eventually I see this random guy who looks NOTHING like my potential date looking awkwardly around. I wave him over and say "Mr. Boring?" (Not really. I used his name.) I'm taken aback because this kid looks nothing like the picture, and has the social awkwardness of a brand newly born chick. It's bad. Oh. And have I mentioned that he's a math teacher? I thought that it was kind of cool. Maybe even sexy. Yeah. I was wrong. Some stereo types never die. And start with good reason.
After he gets his coffee, he sits down. We start chatting about how I'm moving. Well, no. I start talking about how I'm moving because the silence is so awkward. When he talks, it's boring and about how he still lives at home. How his math students don't learn. How he has to move them onto the next grade regardless. The conversation is probably more mundane and boring then vanilla ice-cream. At least vanilla is reliable and tasty. It even has sugar in it.
After about 20 minutes of this hellish conversation, I feign tiredness and call it a night. He decided to stay at B&N to look at the latest sci-fi and fantasy books. I'm not going to comment on the irony of that because I read sci-fi and fantasy from time to time. And that just wouldn't be fair.
Kel asked me how I was able to call it a night after only 20 minutes. My response? If you aren't feeling it, you just aren't. I'm not going to waste my time for an hour just so some guy can realize that we have nothing in common. I don't feel an obligation to sit there and talk about what color socks he wears to work just to not offend him. I know that not a lot of people feel this way. In fact, I'm certain that many people would think that I was a bit too harsh and jumped the gun. To all of you: TRY ONLINE DATING! Then tell me that spending only 20 minutes with someone you find as interesting as the most boring thing you can think of is worth your time and isn't torture. To all those that agree with me in cutting it off as soon as humanly possible: You've obviously been there at some point, so cheers!
This concludes this portion of online dating. From here on out, ladies and gentlemen, I'll be blogging about any interesting stories I may have. Any interesting interactions that come my way. Oh, and we mustn't forget the roommate.
Date #7 Date #2 With The Dino Grad Guy
So turns out that The Dino Grad Guy was a bit of a smart arse. The morning of our second date I get the following message from him (thank you, G-chat):
me: ouch
not sure if I can compete with that
maybe I shouldn't even go
The Dino Grad Guy: I think you need the competition. it wouldn't be fun for you otherwise.
I already knew that he was a smart arse, but it continued to astound me. I have pasted the email sent to the girls the morning after the date. Edited, of course, for mature audiences only! Ha ha. More like, be prepared for me to look like an ass.
So I'm beyond confused by my date last night. The date part of it went well. We got beers and chatted. Then went out to the Berkeley Marina to watch the lunar eclipse. And while we were out there, he starts telling me how many people he's slept with (5) & how the average was two dates, etc. And I just laughed about it, etc. He also mentioned that he was actually easy, and had I wanted to sleep with him on Date #1, I could have. But we ended up making out at the pier or whatever. Then we headed back to get dinner. After that, we went back to his place and started watching tv & making out etc. And he's like "Do you want to go to my room?" And I was like, "Yeah, but I’m not going to sleep with you." And we proceeded to continue to make out for a while longer. And then suddenly he's like "So how long am I going to keep you out till?" (Its like 1015) And I was like "Depends. Am I taking BART home or do you want to drive me to my car?" and he was like 'Umm. BART. I don’t want to drive that far." Me "Um. All right. Well whenever." Him "It's just that Steve (his roommate) mentioned getting a drink with a friend I haven't seen for a while." Me "All right. So I'm being kicked out bc I'm going to sleep with you?" (The flow of the conversation made sense. It wasn't long after the whole bedroom conversation. It also wasn’t the first time he mentioned the second date sex thing.) Him "It's not like that. I wasn't expecting anything." So the conversation goes about in circles for a bit about him wanting to go have a drink & my needing to leave & its just weird bc I'm getting the impression that I'm being kicked out bc I'm not going to sleep with him. So finally I say, "Go meet your friends for drinks, that’s fine." And yes it was slightly sarcastic. Him, "That was just an excuse, I'm just really tired. I want to go to bed." Me, "So the truth would have gotten you a lot further in this conversation." And now I’m annoyed bc it's like, really? You couldn't just ask me to leave bc you wanted to go to bed? And I'm confused. And annoyed that I have no idea whether the kid is interested in me or not. And yes, I do mention that. The jack ass is so f'ing sarcastic he makes me look like a saint. And I can never tell when he's serious or not. (Example: the two blond undergrads – which wasn’t even true.) So anyway. I get up to leave. And he's like "I'll walk you to BART." Me "It’s cool. I know how to get there." Him "Are you sure?" Me "Yeah. It's fine. I'll be fine." And I got up to leave & he's like wait cuz I've left my scarf on the couch. (Can I just mention here that I would have been SO angry if I had left my COACH scarf at his place? I would have been SO ANGRY!!!) And hugs me good bye and goes for a kiss, and when he fails, he looks defeated. And I was like "It's not like that. I do want to see you again, The Dino Grad Guy, and not just in passing bc I'm in
So I'm just confused for the multitudes of above but also because I get the impression that he likes me but then I also get the impression that he doesn't. It's very strange. And I don't know if I want to go out with him again either. I can only handle so much sarcasm. In fact, there's a really good analog from my own experience that reminds me of this. When I worked at Carrows I had a crush on my co worker, Jason. And we went out once or twice. And then nothing. I remember talking to my manager about it, and she was like "Well, you're ruthless with him." And I'm like "What are you talking about? I'm just joking around." Her "I poke fun at him. You bite of his arm." And thats sort of how I feel with The Dino Grad Guy. It's more of a biting off the arm then the poking of fun. Also, I would like to point out that I'm fairly certain that he was a complete nerd in high school & is just starting to come into his own. And I think that makes him co ck y in a bad way.
Oh! And one other question... So making out is supposed to consist of French kissing right? And that's supposed to comprise of tongue. Right? Or have I been kissing all wrong for 12 years?
End email.
One other bit. When we were at the
Okay. So in retrospect, I made some mistakes on this date that are similar to what the Anonymous comment to Date #4 refers to. Mostly, I was interested and probably let that be known a little too well. Also, I wasn’t up for having sex with him on the second date. Maybe that was the problem. Whatever. It was an experience. I left angry. We haven’t really chatted since then. Oh but Anna has something to say about it. Here we go:
From Anna:
I was going to write something completely different until I read the last bit about french kissing.
Yes, he was a complete nerd. I think it's some sort of epidemic with former nerds. Like we all got french-kissing lessons in health and guidance but they were too busy playing Dungeons & Dragons (SORRY RYAN!) and missed the class. That being said, perhaps he does have a case of gotta-makeup-for-lost-time-itis. That would explain the 2 date average (or am I just out of date on 3-5 being the normal # of dates prior to shagging... (is that an ok word, Kel?)) So maybe if you're wanting this to be something more than hanging out/making out/ having fun, he may not be the right candidate. He may want to play the field for a while. My recommendation would be to take half of your eggs out of this basket. In fact, make that 75%- Just in case. That way if something develops, you're pleasantly surprised, but if he turns out to be some jerk that never calls, or is entirely too sarcastic to be fun to hang out with, or is just trying to get as much action as possible, you haven't lost too much. I'd say do this on your own terms. As long as you're having fun, and enjoying his company (it being mutual and all) go for it, knock yourself out. And if you feel like you're more invested than he is, or if he's no longer enjoyable leave him to the blond undergrads (greasy hair, print t-shirts and all- oh I saw the girls in Ryan's classes....).
On the topic of sarcasm. Beware. It's funny at first, endearing even. But I can tell you from my experience with Ryan it gets really old, really fast. Just a little proviso, something to keep in mind as you're figuring out whether you like him and want to keep seeing him. Other than that, I'd say if you're up for it, give it another shot and see if he's perpetually confusing. See if he likes you/if you like him. I mean it's only been two dates. It takes a while to figure that stuff out sometimes. Even if you know how you feel, it may take him longer- hence the confused feeling you get. Just try to take things slow and see how they progress. Again just don't put all your eggs in the basket (You've got like 40K of them he really only needs 1 or 2 K at this point. LOL-can you tell I just gave a lecture on genetics/biology?)
I'm not sure what to make of the "drink with a friend"/"i'm tiered" business, maybe Kel can shed some light on that... I'm wondering though, if he said the thing about being tiered because he thought it wouldn't hurt your feelings as much as him going to get a drink with friends (especially if you said "Go meet your friends... etc." a little bit sarcastically). Maybe he was trying to backpedal after realizing it was kind of a stupid thing to say. I don't know, this is just conjecture on my part.
Oh! And Nicole agreed that making out includes tongue.
Crushes
Oh. And just so we're clear. My definition of a crush is someone that I am interested in knowing better, and most likely feel that I have some level of attraction to. Hell. There may even be some chemistry.
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
Date #6 The Dino Grad Guy
Date #6 comes to us courtesy of my best friend Anna. While at work I could rarely look at the dating websites because of restrictions and blocking and would often forward her any emails or “winks” I would get from guys. One day she looked around the different websites and found someone who she thought would be great for me. We’ll call him The Dino Grad Guy. Ironically, he does not study paleontology.
This date takes place the Monday after my second date with The Wine Guy. It was a three day weekend and the last thing I wanted to do was go on another date. At this point, I was over the online dating thing and going on this date simply out of the sake of finishing something I started. Besides, I had to meet a sorority sister for dinner that night so the date couldn’t last that long.
The Dino Grad Guy and I met in
So what did I learn about The Dino Grad Guy? Well… He was in a relationship for six years but turned out that the girl was a lesbian. His best friends are lesbians and he tends to hang out better with girls. I saw pictures of him when he was younger and he very much had a style make over after breaking up with the girl. (For the better!) He was using online dating to try to meet new people and seemed to be enjoying it. He didn’t consider himself easy and didn’t like “easy” girls. We ended up back at his apartment looking at pictures on his computer and sharing stories about trips and friends. I was supposed to meet Jayme in
Date #5 Date #2 with The Wine Guy
I spent the morning training and the afternoon hanging out with my friend, Matt, who finds the whole online dating situation ridiculously amusing. He doesn’t quite understand the point of it, and in retrospect, I have to say, I sort of agree with him. As the day continues, I still haven’t heard from The Wine Guy. As I leave Matt’s to go home and relax, at which point I have written The Wine Guy off because it was about 3 hours before the customary “going out time”. (In my book, 7 pm.) Turns out he had to go to a funeral that day but still wants to meet for dinner. Well paint me purple and put me in a bucket. Who goes out after a funeral? The past two that I have had the terror of attending, the last thing I wanted to do was go out on a date. (Granted, one was for my boyfriend who had passed away, but that’s not the point.)
We meet in front of the restaurant and I suddenly remember exactly why I shouldn’t have gone on a second date. It’s not that the kid isn’t cute, but he has sort of a squished face and his sense of style rivals Mr. Rogers. (No, there weren’t sweaters, but there very well could have been.) So we go inside and have to wait. I’m like, let’s sit at the bar and eat. Because, really, the thought of making extended small talk with this kid for long periods of time makes me want to vomit. So we sit and have drinks and he’s like, “I’ve already eaten.” Which astounds me because the point of going to dinner isn’t to watch me eat, but to eat together. Plus, how awkward is it when people watch you eat? So he ends up ordering an appetizer. Oh and did I mention that I said I would pay for dinner? I can’t quite remember why I agreed to this blasphemy. I truly am a spirit of “the guy should pay” mentality. Yeah. I’m old fashioned. I want my door open. I want the romance. “Welcome to the age of uninnocence. No one has breakfast at Tiffany's and no one has affairs to remember. Instead we have breakfast at 7 am and affairs we try to forget as soon as possible.” (Candace Bushnell.) Well I want breakfast at Tiffany’s and affairs to remember. So when I say that I’m going to pay, I don’t really expect to be taken up on this. And I’m not to say that when I’m in a relationship (not just casual dating but exclusive dating) I won’t pay for anything. I will. In fact, on the same coin I don’t mind paying when the date is my idea. For example, if I were to plan out a long days worth of activities (maybe a museum, lunch, the park, dinner) then I will happily pay for it all. But rarely do dates last that long, and even rarer do first, second, or third dates go that way. It would be quite advisable for someone to come up with a coffee houselike entity where dates could go to talk. Because food and beverages are ALWAYS just a front for conversation. If you have chemistry, chances are, you’ve already forgotten about the food and beverage.
Anyway. The date! So the food comes and we eat. And the conversation is so not going well. I’m not ready to get married, have kids, and live in wine country. I get the impression that he is. In fact, he continually talked about his family, how he’s going their after the date, etc. Oh and he’s a church going boy. My brother would be proud. And yet, I felt like I could have been anywhere but there. There was absolutely no chemistry. And contrary to popular belief, I think that chemistry can be the start of a good relationship. I mean obviously the other stuff has to be there – good conversation, similar interests, etc. – but I just can’t imagine having a long term relationship with someone who I don’t have good chemistry with. But maybe that comes with being a Capricorn.
You may be wondering, how did the date end? Well, quickly, thankfully. After the meal, I claimed tiredness (which wasn’t actually false… I just exaggerated it) and off we walked to the parking structure. Thankfully there was no discussion of walking me to my car or any of that, and we managed to park on different floors, so we said good bye in the elevator – no hug. Altho, I think there was a hug at the beginning of the date. Wasn’t awkward. Just happened. And on that note, I feel that I must clarify my resistance to hugs. I don’t mind the odd hug from a friend I haven’t seen in a while or when I’ve done something exceptional or when something bad has happened. What I do mind is when strangers hug me, when friends insist on hugging at every encounter we have, and when random people feel it’s okay to touch me. It’s not. I don’t like being touched by people I don’t know. I’ve managed to make good friends with people who also agree and live by these principles.
There were no more planned or acted upon dates with The Wine Guy. I have to say – he was an interesting part of the story, but I wish I would have forgone Date #2 with him.
Monday, March 10, 2008
The 90 Minute Conversation with Out of State Boy
So I'm going home yesterday and Out of State Boys calls, and I'm like "I'm almost to my car, can I call you back in like 10?" and he's like, just tell this guy i'm shy. So the short end ot that conversatoin is that he was hanging out with another Work guy, Work Guy, who's from
So that's the gist of the conversation. Why did I answer the phone? Why did I call him back? Why does any girl return the phone calls/ texts/ emails that "exs" or "past boys" send them? Curiosity, closure, or revenge. Pick one.
Basically after it ended last summer he completely ignored me. And it was at a really bad time in my life, which was really bad for me. And then I couldn't get over it because there was no closure, and it was all because his ex-gf came out to live with him for a while. I mean, I get that guys don't want to be talking to two chicks at once or whatever, but really, if he had just had the balls to tell me that he didn't want to talk to me while his ex-gf was living with him, I would have been okay with it. Instead, I went into stalker mood and got all girly and pissy about it. I mean, really, if you want to hang out with your ex, that's fine, but have the balls to explain that to me.
So where are we now? Well we chat about once a week if that. But I feel loads better about the situation and no longer constantly think about him. Oh man, if I had started this blog when he and I started? Well, oh man is all I have to say.
Date #4
So we sit down and start chatting, and the conversation is going well. In fact, I can't seem to keep my mouth shut. It was one of those dates where everything I think comes out of my mouth. It was bad because then I start to sound like a critical, judgmental bitch (and I guess that's not that far from the truth...), but oh well. It's also usually the first sign that I'm interested in the boy.
So I have no idea what the conversation was about aside from it being normal. We chatted about my previous Match/ Online dates, and the awkwardness of them, etc. It was kind of amusing because he also spent a lot of time talking about how annoying and dramatic his friends were. Yes, this was the guy that in his first email alluded to his friends being drama. So halfway through the date, my phone rings and it's my sister. Obviously she needs to get to the club. And by no means was she my "out" or anything because really, who needs an out at this point in life? I answered the phone and told her to have her friends drive her there and leave their car there and I would pick them up later. That made it sound even like an out. Date #4 and I keep chatting and my phone rings again. It's my sister telling me that the "fourth" guy wasn't going to go and that she needed a ride, again. I tell her fine but to call me twenty minutes before she's ready to go so that I can drive out to get them, and I continue my date.
At 9:30 my sister calls back and is like, "Does your friend know how to get there?" Me, "I don't think he's going to go." So while I'm on the phone I ask him if he wants to go from Concord, to Martinez, to Pleasanton back to Concord and he just laughs awkwardly. Me, "Lis, he's making an awkward laugh, so I'm going with no." Once I'm off the phone he's like, "Well it'd be pointless for me to go with you bc you'll be going right by Danville (where he lives), unless you wanted to go out for drinks in San Ramon with my friends. but you seem like you really want to go home and take a bath." (Apparently I kept talking about wanting to take a bath...) Me, "Well, I'd be down to hang out, but I'm not up for a social thing where I don't know anyone." Him, "Well I only know one of the guys." Me, "Well why don't i call you after I drop them off?" and he agrees. We say good bye (and I hugged him... Oh and he was the only guy I hugged at this point.) And I joked about how I don't normally hug people, etc.
When I got to my sister's, I texted him, "Hey. Would it be weird if I suggested going to your house and just watching a movie or something? Unless you go out with your friends." His response, "Yeah, it's weird, but I think I can handle it. My friends flaked." A minute later I messaged him with, "BTW, this isn't a pretense to just hook up." His response, "Sweetheart, you aren't getting any tonight." Which cracks me up. And then he texted me directions, etc. And off I went to take my sister to the club and then to Date #4's house.
When I get there, we start "The 40 Year Old Virgin" because I hadn't seen it. We spent the whole movie chatting and stuff and watched very little of the movie. And no, we weren't making out. We were chatting the WHOLE time. So during the movie is when I realized that I totally had a crush on him because I literally had no filter on my mouth. I thought it, it came out of my mouth. Good times. We even looked at Myspace pages and whatnot. Yeah. What a date. Ha ha. And yes, I did remark about all of this. Yay for dating...
So halfway through the movie he's like "Do you want some wine?" And of course I do because I heart wine. And he gets it, etc. And then like 20 minutes later he's like "Do you want some candy?" And busts out with packages of m&ms, skittles, etc. And I'm like "Do you just keep a stash of candy next to your couch?" And he's like "No, I went to the store." And I'm just astounded by this act of kindness and gentlemenness. And so, in true Cyn style, I continue to comment about it and he's like "Do you want to see the receipt?" And I say "Yes." And thus he produces a receipt from Longs which includes not only the candy but also the wine that we had already drank. Which I proceed to comment on and make fun of.
Around 1:20 am or so, my sister called. We had just started the second movie, Talladega Nights, which I also haven't seen. I was exhausted. I had already commented on my ability to sleep just about anywhere. So he's like "Do you want me to go get them for you?" Me, "No, it's cool. It might be hard to explain. And then move them from cars, etc." Him, "Yeah, it may be hard to explain to your sister why you're asleep in a guy's bed." Me, "No, I think the harder part to explain would be why they aren't going back to Martinez tonight." So I say good bye to him and head off to pick up my sister and her drunken friends.
On the way home, after dropping them off, I call him to let him know just how thankful he should be that he didn't have to pick them up. And we joked a bit more and then said good night. Oh and I should point out here that his roommate kept texting and calling him during out date. There were some explicit words exchanged between he and I that would tarnish my reputation as a lady. (Ha! As if!) And thus that conversation will not be repeated here.
We texted the next day (which I started) and he was like, "We should meet up during the week." During that we continued to g-chat and even discussed my "lack" of plans for the future. He's at the point in his life where he's ready to buy his first house, etc., and I'm at the part of my life where I just keep thinking that there is something more out there. Very different books. He's an ant-eater and I'm a zorilla (look it up).
So from the sounds of it, the date sounded good, right? Like there would be a second date, that we hit it off, that we had a lot in common, right? WRONG! So a few days later I'm like "Do you want to hang out still?" And he texts me with, "I want to but I don't want to lead you on. Like I see us being friends, not in a relationship." And that spurs this whole conversation of him jumping from us going on one date to being in a relationship. Yeah. Good times. And I point that out but that I understand. So what happened? Well, the only thing I can figure is that because we're in such different books in our lives, that he doesn't want to get to know me better. Or maybe he was in a different universe for the date then I was. Or maybe the date wasn't as good as I thought. (Which is hard to believe for me...) I'm open to interpretation, so bring it my way! This was well over a month ago, and we have only chatted once or twice on g-chat. And haven't hung out since.
"To boys who confuse us!"
Monday, March 3, 2008
Messages from a Player Part 2
This is the second part of my friend and her beau. Sadly, this was the end of their relationship. Be warned, the conversation contains explicit language and adult content. Reader discretion is advised.
Girl: can you have dinner tomorrow night
Boy: not sure
Boy: are you asking me on a date
Boy: going snowboarding in the AM
Girl: of course you are
Boy: why
Girl: why what
Boy: what
Girl: you said "why"
Boy: what are yo utalking about
Girl: Boy: why
Girl: so i said, why what?
Boy: im lost
Girl: omg
Girl: scroll up
Girl: why did you say "why"
Boy: when?
Girl: Boy: going snowboarding in the AM
Girl: of course you are
Boy: why
Boy: why the of course
Girl: cause you always seem to have time to go snowboarding
Boy: omg
Girl: it's true
Girl: ive been trying to hang out with you for....how long now?
Girl: and you never can cause you're always going snowboarding
Boy: ive worked for the past 12 days
Boy: been looking for a place to live before and after work
Boy: first day off
Boy: i want to play
Girl: well then i just wanna know how im ever suppose to see you then?
Boy: i dont know Girl
Girl: neither do i Boy, neither do i
Boy: things will be ez when i get my own place
Girl: if you really think im gonna drive to
Boy: dont get all riled up
Girl: nobody's getting riled up
Boy: you seem to be hot rod
Girl: because i said im not driving to
Girl: that's getting riled up?
Girl: interesting
Boy: chill out light sticks
Girl: lol
Girl: ok Boy
Boy: lol
Girl: i wasnt laughing at your comment, i was laughing at your ridicilousness
Girl: just to be clear
Boy: ok Sweetcheeks
Girl: stop with the little names, its condescending
Boy: sorry what does condescending mean
Girl: nevermind
Boy: what
Boy: do you know
Girl: of course i know, im the one who used the word
Girl: it doesnt matter, just stop with the names
Boy: sorry Moonbeam
Girl: Boy im serious. have some respect to stop something if i ask you to stop
Boy: your funny
Girl: what the fuck is your problem?
Girl: everything i say is just a joke to you
Girl: it gets old Boy
Boy: sorry
Boy: lighten up
Girl: when you do it ALL the time it gets OLD. when you mock everything i say, i get fucking tired of it
Boy: ok cranky pants...think its past your bed time......Sorry i cant tuck you in.....Have sweet dreams...ok sweety....Ill give you a call manana to see whats up with dinner.......ok baby....night night
Girl: seriously what is your problem
Girl: can you be respectful at all?
Boy: seriously! Chill out.....
Boy: yah
Boy: stop
Boy: typing
Girl: no! you chill out! im tired of you constantly mocking me
Girl: its RUDE
Boy: how did i mock you
Girl: and its immature to keep doing it when ive told you to stop
Boy: how did i mock
Boy: you
Girl: when i tell you to stop calling me all those names
Girl: and then you keep doing it
Boy: omg
Girl: and keep doing it
Girl: that's mocking
Boy: your such a bratt
Girl: how is that?
Girl: because i get upset when i ask you to stop something and you dont??
Boy: look at your messages
Boy: thats how
Girl: look at YOUR messages
Girl: they're rude! you're constantly rude to me
Boy: there jokes
Boy: fuck
Girl: i dont care!
Boy: your funny
Girl: it bothers me because everytime you sit there and call me one of those stupid names it just means you dont give a fuck what a think or say or what hurts me
Girl: you just keep doing it anyway
Girl: because YOU think its funny
Girl: its not funny to me when you keep doing it after i've asked you to stop
Boy: i dont ever remember calling you names before
Girl: you ALWAYS do so dont give me that
Girl: you always mock me with things like "ahh omg seriously"
Boy: what names get you so riled up?
Boy: ong!
Boy: omg
Boy: !
Girl: its just your general attitude. your attitude of how you only do whats in your interest. if i tell you something bothers me then you act like im a spoiled brat or something and you keep doing it
Girl: well it fucking hurts to be mocked all the time Boy
Girl: and ive asked you to stop numerous times
Girl: and you DONT
Boy: guess i have you all wrong
Boy: seriously
Boy: gosh
Girl: see, there you go again
Girl: acting as if my feelings dont matter
Boy: what
Boy: dude
Boy: Girl
Boy: chill
Girl: i'll chill when you can be mature and actually stop when i ask you to stop something
Boy: you get so worked up
Girl: because you keep doing it!!
Girl: everytime i try to tell you something that bothers me, you just sit there and roll your eyes and act like im being crazy irrational
Boy: bad girl
Boy: time out
Boy: time out
Girl: so why dont you consider someone else's feelings besides your own
Boy: jeeeeeze leweeeze
Boy: sorry
Boy: wait
Boy: dont message another
Boy: k
Boy: awww wait
Girl: i'll believe you're sorry when i tell you something that bothers me, if for once you can be mature and say "ok im sorry" instead of sitting there and saying "jeeeeeze" "chill out hot rod" etc et
Girl: c
Boy: Girl everthing i do bthers you
Boy: you just figuring that out
Girl: pretty fucking much
Boy: ok
Boy: i wont bother you hten
Girl: why do you always have to sit there and mock me?
Girl: why?
Girl: why cant you just understand that the things you say are hurtfuo
Girl: hurtful
Girl: and realize that and say you're sorry and change it
Boy: Girl im done with your temper tantrums
Boy: im done
Boy: i joke
Boy: im not serious
Boy: im playfull
Boy: your not
Boy: thats why things will probably never work
Boy: you should chill
Girl: yes i am, but when i cant say anything about how i feel without you trying to make a joke
Boy: look for an old guy
Boy: or lighten the fuck up
Girl: this isnt about "lightening the fuck up" its about you being respectful! how hard is that Boy?
Boy: you have problems
Girl: are you fucking kidding me?
Girl: I'm the one who has problems?
Boy: wish i was
Boy: Girl
Boy: you have issues
Boy: look
Boy: think
Girl: i like you Boy. i like you a lot. and then when the things you constantly tell me are rude and condescending how the hell do you think that makes me feel?? how?
Girl: when everything i say is just a joke to you
Boy: if you get that mad over a few playful messages
Boy: do you think thats normal
Girl: its not a "few playful messages" its ALL the time!
Girl: i cant EVER tell you how i feel because you make a joke of it
Boy: whatever
Boy: what are you talking about
Boy: we didnt message anything like that
Boy: i thought we were just freindly chatting
Boy: jeeeze
Girl: you're selfish and you dont even see it. everyone except you sees how you are only in things for yourself. you only do things on your schedule and you dont go out of your way for anyone else, ever. you know Boy, it would be nice for YOU to actually plan a date for us
Girl: but that doesnt happen
Girl: i always have to pester you, and bug you just to be able to see you once every 5 months
Boy: im not a planner
Girl: then fucking become one
Girl: get off your ass and think of someone besdies yourself
Boy: you cant change me
Boy: stop trying
Girl: step outside your fucking box and do something nice for someone else
Boy: i told you this long time ago
Girl: what girl do you think is gonna put up with your shit?
Girl: you want someone to "experience things in life with" well what girl is gonna do that when she has to make all the plans
Girl: when you dont put it any effort
Boy: hmmm hang on
Boy: k
Boy: well im up front
Boy: they will have to take it or leave it
Boy: im 26
Girl: nobody is gonna take that shit
Boy: not changing now
Girl: its ridiculous, you need to grow up and think of people besides yourself
Girl: everything you do, you do it for Boy
Boy: why do you even fuck with me then
Boy: you know what
Boy: im the most giving person you will ever meet....if anyone in my fam says something different they are full of shit. Melissa will tell you that I am the most giving person
Boy: not selfish at all
Boy: i just dont have time
Boy: after moving here
Girl: fucking stop with the i dont have time shit
Boy: ok Girl
Girl: you may be "giving" in some aspects, but when it comes to the general picture, you're selfish. you only do things that are convenient for you
Girl: like the 5 times you've stood me up?
Boy: bull shit
Girl: that's "giving?"
Boy: if you can tell me one way im selfish besides my time i would really lie to hear
Girl: the times you've stood me up! that's selfish! when we were suppose to hang out and then you just disappear
Girl: when you cant even give me a heads up with a 20 sec phone call
Girl: because you are too busy partying somewhere
Girl: that's selfish
Girl: how you can be depended on
Girl: ever
Girl: how if you say you're gonna do something, you very rarely ever come through
Boy: thats all time stuff
Boy: when im with you
Boy: i give you 100% of me
Girl: when you're with me??? after it takes an act of congress to see you???
Girl: EVERY time we've done something together, its been because of ME
Girl: you had nothing to do with it
Boy: dude i work
Boy: i worked 84 hours last week
Girl: i dont fucking care if you work. yes i know you work, i get it. stop using it as an excuse! to make a plan and follow through with it doesnt take that long
Boy: ok
Boy: if im so selfish why do you waste your time
Girl: would it be so hard to say "you know what Girl, i havent seen you in a really long time and after i get back from snowboarding it would be nice to maybe grab a drink." would that be so hard Boy? would it be so hard to plan for 1 hour out of the day tomorrow to actually call me and say hey, lets meet up for an hour
Girl: what is so damn hard about that?? but you wont do it
Boy: OK hot rod.....Im working a 12 hour grave.....getting off at 5 and driving straight to the mt........why would i say that...im going to be so tired that i really dont think thaty im going to do shit
Girl: i dont know Boy why would you
Girl: you have time for snowboarding, but you dont have time to grab a drink for one hour
Boy: omg i cant keep going....you almost had me riled up there for a sec
Boy: ha ha ha
Girl: do what you want. you're not gonna find anyone half as good as me who will put up with your shit
Girl: i dont even know why i do it
Girl: i shouldn't
Boy: you dont
Girl: you say you want someone to share life with, but you're not willing to do your part
Girl: you're gonna end up alone
Boy: fuck it
Boy: you dont even admit to having a yahoo profile
Boy: guess we are both fucked
Girl: what is that suppose to mean?
Girl: why are you still stuck on that?
Boy: well seems like you look at my profile
Boy: have a lot to say about it
Girl: yeah, i did once here recently and that was the time i brought it up to you
Girl: whats your point
Boy: ok Girl
Girl: i dont know where you plan on meeting someone who is just gonna do the work for you. at some point you're gonna have to man up and take responsibility
Boy: yes mother
Girl: see, there it is again
Boy: omg
Boy: whatever
Boy: Girl your a negative person
Girl: no im not, im a very positive person. but when you're constantly surrounded by your and YOUR negative ways, it changes things
Boy: ok Girl
Boy: everybody else like to be around me
Boy: even you
Girl: not everything can be go with the flow never make any plans. you're fucking 26 years old, you plan on spending the rest of your life alone?? what girl do you think is gonna put up with your crap? your crap of never calling her, never making any plans to do anything, etc
Boy: what
Girl: people who like to be aorund you are the people who dont have to count on you for things
Girl: tell me when girl is gonna put up with your crap?? what girl is gonna like never getting a phone call from you. never having you plan a date to take her on. what girl Boy?
Boy: if you have a sec read this tell me what you think
Boy: http://www.personalitypage.com/ESTP.html
Girl: answer my question first
Boy: its not a gay joke
Boy: what was the q
Girl: jesus christ
Boy: just read
Girl: tell me what girl is gonna put up with your crap?? what girl is gonna like never getting a phone call from you. never having you plan a date to take her on. what girl Boy?
Boy: maybe thing will be different when i dont work so much
Boy: my carreer is first at this point in my life
Girl: thats just an excuse
Girl: a phone call takes 5 min
Girl: you cant even do that
Boy: i hate talking on the phone
Boy: i make this clear from the start
Girl: thats not the point
Boy: di you read the link yet
Girl: no girl is going to put up with your constant shit. and your work is just an excuse. when you dont work, you'll be too busy partying or snowboarding to make any type of plans either
Boy: my little fingers are getting tired
Boy: ok fine then
Girl: what about the link
Boy: no girl is going to out with me
Boy: single forever
Boy: did you read the link i sent
Girl: yes what about it
Boy: that was fast
Girl: "They can sometimes be hurtful to others without being aware of it, as they generally do not know and may not care about the effect their words have on others. It's not that they don't care about people, it's that their decision-making process does not involve taking people's feelings into account."
Boy: thats crazy huh
Boy: thats me
Boy: the whole thing
Girl: you seemt o be proud that you hurt peoples feelings
Boy: no
Boy: i dont mean to hurt anybody
Girl: well you hurt me
Boy: that part of my brain just isnt developed like other people
Girl: oh give me a break
Boy: so dont take it personal
Girl: that is not true. you have the ability to change your actions, you just dont
Boy: dude
Boy: Girl
Boy: i dont change
Girl: because you chose not to
Boy: ok
Boy: are you done
Girl: do you realize im one of the best things you could probably ever have?
Boy: no i havent
Boy: whys that
Girl: maybe you should realize it htne
Girl: then
Boy: explain smarty pants
Boy: Girl
Girl: i dont need to explain, its obvious. what other girl is gonna put up with your shit
Boy: If I was changed ez i would be in a relationship now
Boy: thats probably why im single
Girl: then i hope you like being single forver
Boy: you must think im a catch or you wouldnt waste so much energy on me
Boy: trying to fix me up
Girl: i thought you were a catch in the beginning, now im just too far involved to leave
Girl: i definitely dont think you're a catch anymore
Boy: a fixerupper
Boy: ha ha ha ha
Girl: well while you sit there and waste more of your time that you could spend having me just realize that im fucking somebody else
Boy: oh
Boy: good job
Boy: have fun with that
Girl: i will
Boy: ok dont call me anymore one thing i really dont like is what you just did.....you found my button.........nice puch lose my number......you shouldnt be trying to hang out with me if you fucking somebody else......thats sleeeezy,,,,,,,and whorish.....
Girl: hold up
Girl: so its ok for you to go around and date other people
Girl: but not me?
Girl: ?
Girl: answer and i'll leave you alone
Girl: how hard is it to fucking answer
Girl: Boy answer me
Girl: you're being a hypocrite and you know it
Girl: im not gonna leave you alone until you answer
Girl: you're just making this more difficult for yourself
Girl: just fucking answer
Girl: maybe you should follow your own advice "you shouldnt be trying to hang out with me if you're fucking somebody else"
Girl: whoever said we couldn't see other people?
Girl: YOU'RE the one who wanted to date other people
Girl: and now suddenly when the shoe is on the other foot it becomes not ok??
Boy: listen
Boy: or look i should say
Boy: i fuck other girls all the time.....I never rub it in you face like you just did...thats all Girl...Im done...please leave me alone
Girl: you just sat there and said it was a problem that i try to hang out with you while im fucking somebody else
Girl: yet, you appearently do the same thing
Girl: how is that not being a hypocrite?
Boy: dude stop massaging me
Boy: stalker
Girl: Boy top
Girl: stop
Boy: Boytop
Boy: ?
Girl: tell me how you're not being a hypocrite
Girl: your big problem was that i was fucking somebody else and still trying to hang out with you
Boy: leave me alone
Girl: yet you appearently fuck other girls and still try to hang out with me
Girl: no because you're being irrational
Girl: you're getting mad at me for something that youre doing too!
Boy: leave me alone
Boy: im not mad
Girl: not until you answer me
Boy: i expect your hoin around
Boy: i just dont want to hear about it
Boy: promise
Girl: i'll promise when you answer me
Girl: how is it ok for you to fuck other girls and still try to hang out with me
Girl: but its not ok for me to fuck somebody else, and still try to hang out with you
Boy: I dont you try to hang out with me
Girl: you're the one who says you would love to see me and all this stuff
Boy: i dont know what the fuck i was thinking
Boy: will you leave me alone now
Girl: and you told me you wern't sleeping with anybody else
Boy: oh looks like im all cought up.....
Boy: will you leave me alone now
Girl: are you lying to me
Boy: yes
Boy: no
Boy: im not
Boy: will youleave me alone now
Girl: when was the last time you had sex
Boy: you fucking lied....light stix
Boy: i answered
Boy: the QW
Girl: answer that one
Boy: that number 6 now
Girl: just answer and dont lie
Boy: before work i had sex
Girl: today?
Boy: leave me alone
Boy: well yesterday
Boy: leave me alone now please
Girl: i cant
Girl: do you swear you're telling me the truth
Boy: yes
Boy: leave me alone now pleas
Girl: with who?
Boy: this girl
Boy: leave me alone now please
Girl: you're seriously making me cry
Boy: ok then you should just stop taliking to me then
Girl: i cant cause i like you
Boy: what
Boy: Girl are you drunk
Girl: if you're telling me the truth then you seriously just ripped me heart out
Boy: your dumb
Boy: dont say shit like you just said
Boy: if you dont want you little feelings hurt
Boy: thats what you tried to do to me
Girl: its different Boy! i tell you all the time how much i like you and want to be with you
Girl: it doesnt even make a difference to you if im fucking someone else or not because you dont even have feelings for me like i do for you
Boy: leave me alone now please
Boy: Girl you just a little to much for me at this time in my life
Boy: i like you too
Boy: be safe with your fuck buddy
Girl: why did you lie to me then and tell me i was the only person you were having sex with
Boy: k im done
Boy: you said the same thing hot rod
Boy: dont know why your all emotional now
Girl: yeah and the last time you asked you were the onle person
Boy: then why do you want to see me
Girl: apperently you "fuck girls all the time"
Girl: so you've lied to me
Boy: work on your fuck buddy
Boy: im done Girl
Boy: bye
Girl: just wait
Girl: the only reason im even sleeping with somebody else is because i cant have you!
Girl: do you know how much it hurts to like you so much and then never get anything back
Girl: what am i suppose to do?
Girl: you're not suppose to even care if im fucking anybody else cause you never any other time show me that you care
Girl: but it kills me for me to like you so much and then hear that just yesterday you had sex with somebody else?
Boy: just want you to know that you initiated this......that was fucked up...you always talk shit to me about how fuckedup i am.......then you through something like that in mhy face............I did really like you.....I thought that when i get my own place things would be defferent.......my schedule will change soon... so i will have time....but i wont look at you the same and to be honest with you that was way out of line.....have fun with your fuck buddy........to bad he dont take out ....on sat night............