A Few Conclusions About Dating

So I went on my first date of the second round of online dating on Monday. I would say that it was rather successful and turned into hanging out several times this week. And it's weird. I don't have this odd inclination to type out everything we talked about and poke fun at his idiosyncrasies. At least not yet. Maybe because I may be developing the smallest of crushes on The Car Guy. So, instead, I will share with you the fun of things I have learned about myself, my co-workers and friends during the last two weeks while discussing my re-entrance into the realm of online dating.

Inevitably, almost everyone has a story about a bad online date. My co-worker has several, but it appears that I take the cake for them. Upon discussing online dating, my co-worker and I chatted (and dissected) why there is never a second date when one expects there to be one. Date numero uno may have gone fantastic in one person's mind, but apparently not the case in the other person's mind. I even fell victim to this. Recently my co worker went on a great first date but the guy never called her after. And I just have to wonder. Is it really too hard to make it more obvious that you aren't feeling the other person? Or do I just live in an idealistic world where everyone says what they think and feel?

Also recent, I learned that another of my co workers was going into the dating world again for the first time in two years, which is admirable. She found my blog not only uplifting, but I think she figured that her date wouldn't be half as bad as any of my bad dates. Her one complaint? The guy couldn't figure out what he wanted to do. Girls always get shit for not being able to make a decision, but as a man in this day and age, it's actually quite sexy (and nice) if you already have a plan of what you want to do for the first date.

And lastly, Kel and I sent numerous emails this week about my "many" dates with the Car Guy. Upon further inspection, we both realized that we are absolutely horrible at showing guys we are interested in them in the beginning. We aren't naturally great huggers or touchy feely people, something that is not only expected in dating, it's practically required. So do guys just assume we aren't interested? Kel and I don't know. Any guys out there want to take a stab at this one?

So, the conclusions. A second date will never be when you expect it. Guys need to learn how to re-take the reins (at least for the first date), and Kel and I need to learn to be more open with hugs.

xoxo,

Cyn