Online Dating Lesson 2

Online Dating Lesson #2

Okay. So it's been a few weeks of this online dating, and I have to say I'm a bit disappointed. Why, you ask? Well, grab a beer, sit back, relax, and read on.

So we'll continue on the rant of emails. I really respect the guys that msg me to say "Hey. I think you're cute. Do you want to grab a drink or dinner?" vs the ones that I continuely have email wars with. No offense, but knowing your favorite color doesn't help me to know you. (Sorry, Chris. I know that you can learn loads about them from this one little question.) You may be able to compose the best of emails but lack all social skills. So, let's go out, have a drink, and shoot the shit.

So Match.com has this whole "wink" thing, OkCupid has "woo", and Yahoo Personal has "ice-breakers". These are simple ways to let people know that you are interested in them without taking the plunge of emailing them (and quite often, without paying for the service). Most sites give you the option of "I'm not interested". This feature will let the winker, wooer, or ice-breaker know that you have viewed their profile or their picture (and lets be honest, for most of us the picture is just as important as the profile. Hence, why I'm not on eharmony.com) and are not interested in them. And really, I'd like to see some statistics on how many people actually hit "I'm not interested." Lord knows that I don't. I simply "x" them out and call it a day. On that same notion, I will sit back and be like "So, why hasn't this guy "winked" back? Did he not want to his the "I'm not interested" button? Has he not been online?" Which is ridiculous. I have invested no more then the $60 and hours of my time, but then I start to wonder, how does my profile read to other people? Are they thinking that I want something long term (because we all know that I don't)? Do they think I'm boring? Is my profile ridiculously boring? And off to "Edit Profile" I go and reread everything I have put on there. Sadly, I love my profile and think that it is very much me. And if you want to view it, go to
Something to not put in the first email you send me: I don't want to know that your emotional. Contrary to popular belief, emotional guys are not manly (at least not to me). Yeah. I want to know that you'll cry if your dog dies, or your best friend gets into a car accident. But please don't tell me you cry at the drop of the hat or during "Titanic".
When starting conversations or messaging with me, please do not respond to questions with one word answers. Please have a follow up question especially if you started the conversation. If I have started the conversation and you aren't interested, that's fine. I'll take the one word answers. But if you started it, please have the courtesy to try to keep the conversation going.

More soon. Maybe I'll even have a date or two after the new year!

xoxo,
Cyn