Online Dating Lesson #2
Okay. So it's been a few weeks of this online dating, and I have to say I'm a bit disappointed. Why, you ask? Well, grab a beer, sit back, relax, and read on.
So we'll continue on the rant of emails. I really respect the guys that msg me to say "Hey. I think you're cute. Do you want to grab a drink or dinner?" vs the ones that I continuely have email wars with. No offense, but knowing your favorite color doesn't help me to know you. (Sorry, Chris. I know that you can learn loads about them from this one little question.) You may be able to compose the best of emails but lack all social skills. So, let's go out, have a drink, and shoot the shit.
So Match.com has this whole "wink" thing, OkCupid has "woo", and Yahoo Personal has "ice-breakers". These are simple ways to let people know that you are interested in them without taking the plunge of emailing them (and quite often, without paying for the service). Most sites give you the option of "I'm not interested". This feature will let the winker, wooer, or ice-breaker know that you have viewed their profile or their picture (and lets be honest, for most of us the picture is just as important as the profile. Hence, why I'm not on eharmony.com) and are not interested in them. And really, I'd like to see some statistics on how many people actually hit "I'm not interested." Lord knows that I don't. I simply "x" them out and call it a day. On that same notion, I will sit back and be like "So, why hasn't this guy "winked" back? Did he not want to his the "I'm not interested" button? Has he not been online?" Which is ridiculous. I have invested no more then the $60 and hours of my time, but then I start to wonder, how does my profile read to other people? Are they thinking that I want something long term (because we all know that I don't)? Do they think I'm boring? Is my profile ridiculously boring? And off to "Edit Profile" I go and reread everything I have put on there. Sadly, I love my profile and think that it is very much me. And if you want to view it, go to
Something to not put in the first email you send me: I don't want to know that your emotional. Contrary to popular belief, emotional guys are not manly (at least not to me). Yeah. I want to know that you'll cry if your dog dies, or your best friend gets into a car accident. But please don't tell me you cry at the drop of the hat or during "Titanic".
When starting conversations or messaging with me, please do not respond to questions with one word answers. Please have a follow up question especially if you started the conversation. If I have started the conversation and you aren't interested, that's fine. I'll take the one word answers. But if you started it, please have the courtesy to try to keep the conversation going.
More soon. Maybe I'll even have a date or two after the new year!
xoxo,
Cyn
Thursday, December 27, 2007
Tuesday, December 18, 2007
Online Dating Lesson 1
Well, it's official. I have joined the online world of dating. And in the past week I have learned quite a few things. So let us all take a moment to enjoy lesson 1 of Online Dating.
Why do guys think it's appropriate to post pictures of themselves with other females? From "ex" girlfriends to sisters to mothers there are plenty of culprits on every dating website. If we were interested in dating a female, we'd be searching "female looking for female". And if you think it makes you cool by having a girl in the picture? Well, it doesn't. On the same note of pictures. Please post pictures of yourself, not a group of you and your friends, not a picture where you are rock climbing or some other extreme sport that you think makes you look cool, but a picture where I can see your face. Yes, I'm superficial. I'm okay with that. You should be too.
We all hate the "tell me about yourself" section of a dating website. We all know this. So get over it and write something interesting because otherwise I'm basing everything on your picture, and chances are, that's bad for you. And on the same line of profiles. Honestly, we've all read and watched the Da Vinci Code, we all go to the gym, we all want to make the world a better place, and we all like to travel. Come up with something original.
Why do 40 something year old balding men think it's okay to "wink", "ice break", or email me? My profile specifically says 23-32. If you're 34 we can chat. But above that, unless you're the hottest thing that has walked this earth, please do not message me. It's embarrassing to you, to me, and to your wife you're probably cheating on.
We'll close lesson 1 with a reflection on the "emailing" on dating websites. How many emails is it going to take before you ask for my personal email address, my phone number, or on a date? Is there a courtesy number? Because honestly, I'd rather know if I'm wasting my time. I did join the website to go on actual dates. Not to have a new pen pal. I have plenty of those.
Why do guys think it's appropriate to post pictures of themselves with other females? From "ex" girlfriends to sisters to mothers there are plenty of culprits on every dating website. If we were interested in dating a female, we'd be searching "female looking for female". And if you think it makes you cool by having a girl in the picture? Well, it doesn't. On the same note of pictures. Please post pictures of yourself, not a group of you and your friends, not a picture where you are rock climbing or some other extreme sport that you think makes you look cool, but a picture where I can see your face. Yes, I'm superficial. I'm okay with that. You should be too.
We all hate the "tell me about yourself" section of a dating website. We all know this. So get over it and write something interesting because otherwise I'm basing everything on your picture, and chances are, that's bad for you. And on the same line of profiles. Honestly, we've all read and watched the Da Vinci Code, we all go to the gym, we all want to make the world a better place, and we all like to travel. Come up with something original.
Why do 40 something year old balding men think it's okay to "wink", "ice break", or email me? My profile specifically says 23-32. If you're 34 we can chat. But above that, unless you're the hottest thing that has walked this earth, please do not message me. It's embarrassing to you, to me, and to your wife you're probably cheating on.
We'll close lesson 1 with a reflection on the "emailing" on dating websites. How many emails is it going to take before you ask for my personal email address, my phone number, or on a date? Is there a courtesy number? Because honestly, I'd rather know if I'm wasting my time. I did join the website to go on actual dates. Not to have a new pen pal. I have plenty of those.
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